Words cuts.

Too often people finds it so easy to say things that they think is funny, or means nothing - just some flippant words for a cheap or two, but for some (i would say a lot) those words cuts. Deeper than you ever thought and for plenty of us who feels more, we carry it with us like scars.

I'm used to be teased, being bigger than your average petite Asian stereotypes, even when i was once skin and bones, i was never skinny enough for people to stop commenting about my body.

With my demeanor (i am naturally shy, some people mistaken my shyness as bitchiness and sometimes arrogance but when you are older than me/someone i know/a friend of a friend then i tend to hide my shyness with jokes and laughter - which again people mistaken as a welcome sign to say demeaning jokes about me) and my years-younger-appareance (young uns, i'm probably old enough to be your mother) it's just so easy to get too comfortable to say stupid things to me and think that it's okay.

What's weirder to me? Is those people who attacks with their snakey tounges usually have their own weight problems (on both spectrums), this makes me believe that it's their own inability to accept and love their bodies that makes them bitter with the way i love mine. Sad people are pathetic, in their minds others who they think shares their problem (although honestly, they are usually a lot bigger than me) should be as sad and bothered as them, therefore they try to bring you down by saying mean things about you.

Have you ever think people who says mean things about you this way? Coz i know for a fact that it's true... Why can't we all be a little kinder, a little more cautious with our words?
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Taking a break from close up, indoor, quarantine posts with posting a set of throwback OOTD (throw way back when i still sport a full front bangs 🤣, it's been a long while) i never posted while sharing my musings about some deeper issues.

Sharing this picture reminds me how uncomfortable i was that day, i carry my weight around my arms and thighs (and face) the most, while i can tell you i have a flat tummy, i sometimes joke about how my arms are not for public consumption because i i find them hideous. Do i hate my body? I truly don't. After many many years of struggling, i have finally accepted my body, but that doesn't mean i have no inscecurities about them. Ofc i do. I would still wear this dress but in the future, for my own comfort, i will pair it with something that covers my arms. Not because i am ashamed of them though, but because i want and deserve to feel good and comfortable.

This is something that most people fail to understand, body acceptance and body positivity is not a movement to glorify obesity (and anorexia), it is a movement to celebrate and accept being able to love yourself regardless of your shape and weight.

It's also a bit sad how people (especially Indonesian 🤣, i guess it is the same for some Asian countries) are also so ready to remind us how flawed we are (i will be sharing some stories that i wasn't ready to share before but i think i am now) and how it's supposed to be okay to make fun/comment on other people's bodies - and when the person's offended, then he/she is petty/unreasonable/cannot take joke. That is effed up.

If any of you managed to read my whole caption, feel free to share with me your own insecurities and if you find me raising such issues to be interesting?

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تقبل الله من ومنكم semuanya~From Tuan dan Nyonya Pietersz 🙃Ceritanya mau foto keluarga berdua ala2 gt, yang tanganny didepan dada kaya salam. Tpy kita berdua gabisa skwkw mukanya kek mo poto KTP 🤣🤣 yaudalah.. udh panas udh gerah.. poto begini aja biar cepet 🤣🤣 MET LEBARAN SEMUANYA 🥳 STAY AT HOME DAN JANGAN TERIMA TAMU 😜. #clozetteid #dirumahaja #ramdhankareem #eidmubarak #happyeidmubarak #stayathome #dirumahaja #kinfolk #kinfolklife #sbybeautyblogger #hijabbloggerindonesia #surabayainfluencer #surabayablogger #influencersurabaya #bloggerid #훈녀 #훈남 #팔로우 #선팔 #맛팔 #좋아요 #셀카 #셀피 #셀스타그램 #얼스타그램 #일상 #jakartabeautyblogger #bloggerjakarta

One Brand Review of @skindalab_beautiqueBy @skindaclinic.aesthetic is up on the blog!Go to https://bit.ly/skindalabreview (direct link ada di bio) untuk kupas tuntas tentang produk-produknya Skinda Lab mulai dari skincare sampe ke bodycare!Jangan lupa masih ada diskon 25% juga di Shopee mereka lho sampe tanggal 24 Mei 😉. #reviewwithMindy #clozetteid #sbybeautyblogger #bloggerindonesia #bloggerceria #beautynesiamember #influencer #beautyinfluencer #surabayablogger #SurabayaBeautyBlogger #bbloggerid #beautybloggerid #bloggerperempuan #beautysocietyid #indonesianfemalebloggers #indobeautysquad #itsbeautycommunity #skinda #skindalab #sheetmask #skindalabsheetmask #whiteningsheetmask #facialmask #girl #asian #review #endorsementid #endorsersby #influencersurabaya #surabayainfluencer

Me, thinking of the absurdity of the person who unfollows the brand and one of the influencers in our GA less than 24 hours after being announced as one of the winners.Thankfully the brand has not sent out the prized yet and is replacing the winner.Why people why, it's so not smart 🤣. #galaxyteabar #bubbletea #penangcafe #pinkinmalaysia #pinkinpenang #clozetteid #sbybeautyblogger #beautynesiamember #bloggerceria #influencer #beautyinfluencer #jalanjalan #wanderlust #blogger #bbloggerid #beautyblogger #indonesianblogger #surabayablogger #travelblogger #indonesianbeautyblogger #travelblogger #girls #surabayainfluencer #travel #trip #pinkjalanjalan #pink #bloggerperempuan #ootd

Kalo sebelumnya kita sudah bahas soal body care dan sheet masknya @skindalab_beautique , sekarang giliran skin care nya nih!

Kalian pasti udah tau ya aku kalo nyobain skin care ga pernah main-main (makanya aq ga pernah terima project skin care lebih dari 2 perbulan), jadi aku udah 2 minggu lebih exclusive cuma pake 4 produk ini untuk cleansing, toning dan moisturizing.

Aku cinta abis sama facial foamnya (new fave!!!) Yang bentuk pump jadi langsung keluar thick foam gitu, foamnya super dense and asik banget di pake! Tonernya juga menyegarkan banget.

Aku sebenernya rewel loh soal sunscreen, tapi sunscreennya SkindaLab ini nyaman banget di pake dan ngga bikin kulit tambah oily, dan yang ngga nyangka itu Face Mist Essence nya yang super hydrating. Aku selama exclusive pake produk-produk Skinda ini cuma pake Face Mist Essence aja kalo malem dan kulitku hydrated banget!

I can safely say aku cocok sama semua produknya SkindaLab 😍😍😍, untuk pembahasan lebih mendalam tungguin di blog ya, akan segera up dalam minggu ini kok!

Kalo kalian mau cobain produk-produk SkindaLab, buruan cek Shopee mereka karena masih ada diskon 25% all products sampe tanggal 24 Mei besok, jangan sampe telat!

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Aku kalo dandan selalu pake teknik baking dan highlighting untuk mengontrol minyak, menjaga hasil makeup untuk tahan seharian dan untuk memberikan dimensi pada wajah.Udah pada tau kan baking itu apa? Bukan bikin kue ya 😅, baking tu pengaplikasian loose powder di bagian-bagian wajah yang gampang berminyak dan creasing, aplikasinya agak banyak terus di biarkan minimal 5 menit baru di brush off.Nah aku nemu loose powder lokal yang super cocok untuk baking, @lookecosmetics Holy Smooth and Blur Loose Powder. Aku pake shade Freya (yang terang, untuk yg kulitnya lebih deep ada Terra) dan bisa kalian lihat di foto, bedaknya super halus, smooth dan finelly milled sampe baking pun kelihatan tetap halus 😳😳. Aku serius suka banget sih sama bedak ini OMG, hasilnya tuh super smooth dan kayak porcelain (aku ga pake bedak lain di foto ini, ga edit complexion juga kecuali tone warna) dan bebas minyak berjam-jam! Bakalan jadi Holy Grail sih i can tell... Kalian yang mau tau lebih detail tentang Looke Cosmetics Holy Smooth and Blur Loose Powder cuz langsung ke blog aku ya, link ada di bio atau ketik https://bit.ly/lookeloosepowder ! #turnonyourperfection #ReviewwithMindy #clozetteid #sbybeautyblogger #bloggerindonesia #bloggerceria #beautynesiamember #influencer #beautyinfluencer #beautysocietyid #itsbeautycommunity #surabayablogger #SurabayaBeautyBlogger #bbloggerid #beautybloggerid #bloggerperempuan #beautysocietyid #indonesianfemalebloggers #indobeautysquad #review #influencersurabaya #surabayainfluencer

Love to wear Angel Glow all over my face!Aku pake warna paling terang di cheek bones, ini yang paling subtle dan soft jadi kalo kulit kalian pale dan suka highlighter yang ethereal2 gitu bisa pake yang ini. Swipe untuk foto close up, bisa lihat kalo highlighternya ada micro glitternya tapi super halus, ngga chunky dan ga bikin texture kulit makin kelihatan.Aku pake warna ke2 di tulang hidung dan warnanya masih masuk banget sama kulitku, malah mungkin warna yang paling cocok tuh untuk makeup glowing natural.Aku juga pake highlighter2nya untuk di eye look, cuma aku gelapin aja sudutnya pake eyeshadow cokelat, sisanya pake Angel Glow aja - yang paling glittery dan agak chunky cuma warna paling gelap aja dan cantik banget di pake di mata.Aku suka banget sihh dan bakalan sering kepake ini, untuk dandan natural atau mau konser juga bisa kepake 🤣. Mau punya juga ga? #ReviewwithMindy #ReviewwithGiveawayGenk #GiveawayGenk #beautytreats #angelglow #highlighterpalette #clozetteid #sbybeautyblogger #bloggerindonesia #bloggerceria #beautynesiamember #influencer #beautyinfluencer #beautysocietyid #itsbeautycommunity #surabayablogger #SurabayaBeautyBlogger #bbloggerid #beautybloggerid #bloggerperempuan #beautysocietyid #indonesianfemalebloggers #indobeautysquad #review #influencersurabaya #endorsement #openendorsement #endorsementid #surabayainfluencer

Ini lho highlighter Beauty Treats yang bisa kalian menangkan dari #GiveawayGenkXkumurabeauty ! Salah satu highlighter palette yang terkenal banget dari Beauty Treats : Angel Glow!Aku tuh highlighter maniac banget, pokoknya mau dandan sesimple atau seheboh apapun aku merasa ngga lengkap aja kalo ngga pake highlighter banyak2 🤣. Udah lama juga ngincer Angel Glow jadi excited banget pas nerima ini n ga pake lama langsung di pake dandan2. Palette nya seperti khasnya Beauty Treats, terbuat dari karton dan kertas tapi cukup sturdy dan ada kaca yang lumayan gede. Ini quad palette gitu jadi ada 4 warna highlighternya, pertama2 aku agak kuatir karena 3 warna selain warna paling terang kayaknya terlalu gelap untuk aku - tapi ternyata 3 dari 4 warnanya masih masuk untuk aku pake kok, cuma warna paling gelap (dan paling bling2) aja yang cuma bisa aku pake sebagai eyeshadow.Texturenya lumayan buttery, ngga keras dan pigmentasinya jelas heboh as expected from Beauty Treats ya, bagus pake banget! Harganya juga cukup terjangkau sih jadi kalo mau beli langsung juga bisa cuz ke @kumurabeauty tapi mumpung ada giveaway, kenapa ngga di coba dulu? Siapa tau jodoh 😁😁😁. Swipe untuk lihat swatches, aq foto tanpa dan dengan flash untuk lihat kilaunya. #ReviewwithMindy #ReviewwithGiveawayGenk #GiveawayGenk #beautytreats #angelglow #highlighterpalette #clozetteid #sbybeautyblogger #bloggerindonesia #bloggerceria #beautynesiamember #influencer #beautyinfluencer #beautysocietyid #itsbeautycommunity #surabayablogger #SurabayaBeautyBlogger #bbloggerid #beautybloggerid #bloggerperempuan #beautysocietyid #indonesianfemalebloggers #indobeautysquad #review #influencersurabaya #endorsement #openendorsement #endorsementid #surabayainfluencer